jealousy.

i have a huge problem with jealousy and controlling jealousy.

and for those people like me, here's remedy.

Jealousy is one of the biggest traps within relationships. The feeling of possession that usually accompanies love and being in love ignites jealousy, but it can sometimes become a bigger influence than the love itself. Many couples have been driven apart by an overdose of jealousy. There isn’t much you can do, when you tend to get jealous easily, however, this emotion is not harmful by itself if you know how to deal with it. It should not be the cause of mistrust in your partner, or even of the end of your relationship.

A few tips on how to deal with your jealousy, can help you out:

Serious forms of jealousy can hinder your relationship. On the other hand, it is a sign of love after all. Don’t give to much power to jealousy. Jealousy is an expression of the fact that you feel comfortable with a certain person and that nobody is allowed to break this contact. Learn how to cope with fits of jealousy and your relationship will be the better for it.

Be clear about your feelings

When you are jealous, you should not hide it. Be open to your partner about your feelings. Explain what the situation is about and find a solution together. To communicate with your partner is essential within a relationship. You have to know what goes on in his or her head and this goes both ways. Only this way you can work together on an exaggerated form of jealousy.

Give trust

Give your partner the feeling that you trust him or her. It will have an opposite effect if your partner gets the idea that you suspect him or her of adultery. Suspicion will never work positively. You should believe that your partner cares as much about you as you care about him or her. If you are really convinced, that your suspicions are true, you need to talk.

Give each other space

Don’t jump up if your partner kisses somebody on the cheek or gives someone a compliment. A relationship should not be based on the possession of each other, but on freedom and trust. Allow your partner to have social contact with others. Don’t be alarmed by little things. And ask same of your partner.

Keep in mind that a light form of jealousy is positive. Your jealousy should not take on huge shapes so it will not become disturbing. Light jealousy promotes attachment. Your jealousy should always remain an image of your love. So, as long as your jealousy doesn’t really stand in your way, it is an honorable feeling.

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i think this piece of information is rather effective. for those who need this advice, do try it out as well. No harm right? =)

"Harm no one. Do as thou wilt. This, then, shall be the whole of the law." This is also known as "The Law of Love."